It was 22 years ago, if I remember correctly, when I was new to the Christian walk, that I first realized something truly needed to change. It wasn’t a dramatically obvious moment; it was quiet, like a whisper to my soul.
I remember sitting alone, reflecting deeply, and a thought suddenly crossed my mind: Am I living as the person I was meant to be? That question struck deeply. I’d been so intensely focused on outward success and appearances that I hadn’t even considered what was happening inside me—in my heart and spirit. It was then that I began to see the glaring gap between who I was and who I could become.
Paul’s teaching about the “new man” in Ephesians 5:3 echoed powerfully in my heart: “But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you.”
These words weren’t just rules; they were an open invitation to a higher way of living. But what does it mean to truly become the “new man”? Let’s dive wholeheartedly into this transformative journey together.
What Does It Mean to Be the “New Man”?
The concept of the “new man” isn’t just a pleasantly nice idea; it’s a call to profound inner transformation.
In Romans 1, Paul goes into meticulous detail about what it means to leave behind “uncleanness.”
This isn’t about outward hygiene but about the state of the heart. Paul describes behaviors and desires that pull us gradually away from God’s design—actions rooted in lust, selfishness, and rebellion against His will.
Here’s the bottom line: the new man is marked by a restored character that mirrors Christ. It’s not just about avoiding wrongdoings but about embracing holiness. Holiness isn’t a list of do’s and don’ts; it’s the essence of becoming who God designed you to be.
In practical terms, being the new man means walking in love, living selflessly, and reflecting God’s character. It’s choosing what pleases Him, even when the world around you simply doesn’t understand.
Breaking Free from the Old Self
Let me share a story that illustrates the struggle between the old self and the new. A friend I know lived a sanctified life for decades after being completely freed from alcoholism.
But one fateful moment of seeing other Christians casually sipping wine made her question everything. “If they can do that, I can!” he thought. That small compromise brought his old struggles crashing swiftly back, and he’s been battling them ever since.
This isn’t about harshly judging others but about deeply understanding the weight of our actions.
Paul’s words ring profoundly true here: “Let not fornication, uncleanness, or covetousness even be named among you.” Why?
Because our choices have ripple effects. We’re called to a higher standard not out of obligation but out of love—for God, for ourselves, and for those who look to us for guidance.
Walking in the Light of Love
Becoming the new man means walking brightly in the light of love. This love isn’t the fleeting emotion we see glorified so casually in media; it’s sacrificial, enduring, and rooted in God’s unshakable truth.
Love doesn’t selfishly seek its own comfort but considers the impact of every action.
Paul’s example is compellingly clear in 1 Corinthians 8:13; he was willing to give up eating meat if it would prevent someone else from stumbling.
Imagine that! In a world so obsessed with personal rights and freedoms, Paul’s humility is radically inspiring.
He’s essentially saying, “If my liberty harms someone else, I’ll gladly lay it down.” This is the heart of the new man—selfless, others-focused, and unwaveringly filled with integrity.
Embracing the Character of Christ
I’ve always been utterly amazed by how Jesus lived. His life was the ultimate example of the new man. He walked in perfect obedience to the Father, not out of compulsion but out of pure love. When we embrace His character, we reflect His radiant light in our own lives.
But let’s be real—this isn’t always easy. It means saying no to things that might feel undeniably good in the moment but ultimately pull us away from God’s purpose.
It’s choosing forgiveness over bitterness, purity over indulgence, and humility over pride. And it’s doing so consistently, even when absolutely no one else is watching.
In Ephesians 5, Paul urges us to “put on” the new man, just like you’d put on a fresh, clean garment. This isn’t automatic; it’s intentional. It requires daily choices, small sacrifices, and a reliance on God’s grace to sustain us.
The Ripple Effect of Holiness
Holiness isn’t just about you; it’s about the legacy you intentionally leave behind. Think about it—your actions today shape the lives of those around you.
Whether it’s your family, friends, or coworkers, people are watching. They see how you gently handle challenges, temptations, and setbacks.
When you choose to walk as the new man, you’re not just transforming your own life; you’re inspiring others to do the same.
Your life becomes a living testimony of God’s power to change hearts and minds. And that’s something truly worth striving for.
Conclusion: Take the First Step Today
Becoming the new man is a journey—one that starts with a single, intentional step. It’s not about being absolutely perfect but about being willing. Willing to let go of the old, to embrace the new, and to walk brightly in the light of love.
So, here’s my challenge to you: Take a moment to carefully reflect on your life.
- Are there areas where the old self still clings stubbornly to you?
- Are there habits, thoughts, or attitudes that need to be surrendered?
Mark my words: the journey won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.
As you take steps to put on the character of Christ, you’ll find freedom, joy, and purpose like never before. And who knows? Your transformation might just inspire someone else to eagerly begin their own.
Let me know how this resonates with you. I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Together, let’s embrace the call to be the new man and shine God’s light in a world that desperately needs it.
